DEAR ABBY: Would you please deal with once more the significance of expressing gratitude by way of a handwritten notice when a beneficiant reward has been given? We grandparents would like it to be acknowledged by our grandchildren. A few of them are higher than others at this. My take is that their mother and father, though they have been taught correctly, did not take the time to emphasise the significance of expressing gratitude.
I do not settle for the notion that “folks simply do not try this anymore.” Once I give a beneficiant reward to a newlywed couple or a grandchild, the cash got here out of my checking account. I need to know my reward was obtained and appreciated. I’ve nearly reached the purpose the place, sooner or later, I’ll reply “not capable of attend” and ship nothing once I know the chances of it being acknowledged are virtually nil and the couple is, as an illustration, a distant relative. Abby, is that letter-writing publication of yours nonetheless accessible? It is clearly nonetheless wanted. — DISGUSTED IN ALBUQUERQUE
DEAR DISGUSTED: Sure, my Letters booklet remains to be accessible. The problems you increase are ones I hear about typically from readers. Nonetheless, you could be judging these of us a bit harshly. Many individuals postpone writing letters as a result of they do not know specific their emotions by way of the written phrase and concern they’ll say the improper factor. They suppose a thank-you notice have to be lengthy and flowery when, in actual fact, brief and to the purpose is more practical.
That’s the reason why “How To Write Letters for All Events” was written. It comprises samples of thank-you letters for birthday items, bathe items and marriage ceremony items, in addition to those that arrive round vacation time. It additionally contains letters of congratulations and ones relating to tough topics, such because the lack of a dad or mum, a partner or a baby. It may be ordered by sending your identify and deal with, plus a verify or cash order for $8 (U.S. funds), to: Expensive Abby Letters Booklet, P.O. Field 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447. Transport and dealing with are included within the worth. With the vacation season quick approaching, that is the proper time to answer with a handwritten letter, notice or well-written e-mail.
As a result of letter composition just isn’t at all times successfully taught within the colleges, my booklet can function a useful tutorial — not solely a precious instrument for folks to make use of in educating their youngsters to write down utilizing correct etiquette, but additionally a useful information for anybody who places off writing as a result of they do not know what to say.
DEAR ABBY: Is weekly intimacy uncommon at 72 years of age? — WONDERING IN TEXAS
DEAR WONDERING: Not for somebody who has a companion who’s prepared and ready.
DEAR VETERANS: To your service to our nation, I salute you. My thanks to every of you on this Veterans Day. You’re the personification of patriotism, self-sacrifice and dedication to our nation. Immediately I might additionally like to acknowledge your households for the sacrifices they, too, have made. — Love, ABBY
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact her at Expensive Abby, P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069, or go to DearAbby.com.